HOW TO STOP LOVING SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT LOVE YOU

you can agree with me when i say that loving someone who doesnt love you is the hardest thing that every average young person can do. its not that its too hard but the feelings are so damning and you can believe me when i say that loving someone who doesn’t love you is one of the most hopeless feelings in the world because it isn’t something you can control. Then again, this is exactly why you need to start the healing process: it’s not your fault, there’s nothing you could have done differently, and the only thing left to do is move on

1. Be Honest With Yourself.

How and why you feel about another says a lot about you. How and why the other person feels about us says a lot about them. It is important to let it sink in deeply that the person being loved does not love back. It hurts. Feel it. Allow yourself to grieve. You do not have to know why. Grieving is the beginning of the healing.

2. Focus on the Negative.

Though you don’t need to start a crusade to turn the person you care about into a monster, it’s time to start thinking of some bad things to balance out the good ones.

Accept the fact that this person will never love you back. Too hurtful? The better. The more you internalize this fact and hard wire it into your system, it allows you to remove any false hope that’s within you, making it easier for you to stop loving this person.

3. Get Rid of Mementos.

Make space for a new person in your life by letting these things go. In fact, make a mini ceremony for it. As you go through each item, think of the memory associated with it, then imagine putting that memory in a balloon. As you get rid of the thing, imagine the balloon drifting away never to be seen again.

4. Avoid Memory-Triggers.

If you associate the person with a particular song or album, stop listening. If you always used to hang out in a certain spot, stop going. If you have a lot of mutual friends, make a point of hanging out with other people. If you still see each other regularly, stop if at all possible. (This may be difficult at work or school, but you can start by wearing headphones when they’re around, eating lunch somewhere else, walking along new routes, etc.) Don’t surround yourself with mental and emotional reminders; it’s no substitute for having the real thing and will just delay the healing.

5. Find Creative Ways to Stop Dwelling on the Person.

While it’s impossible to not think about something, it is possible to divert your thoughts elsewhere whenever you start to go down that rabbit hole. Every time those memories bubble up, distract yourself with another thought, activity, or project. Call a friend. Watch a hilarious movie. Build something. Work in the garden and anything that will engage you for long enough to get the person off your mind for a while. The more of a habit you make of not thinking about the person, the easier it will become.

6. Think of everything you’ve been missing.

How long have you been in love with this person now? Months? Years? And in that time, how many opportunities for other relationships do you think you have passed up? Remember, the next love of your life is out there right now wondering when they’ll find you. Don’t waste another moment being unavailable.

7. Get back in the game.

Put yourself out there, meet new people, flirt, and remind yourself how great it feels to be a catch. Your confidence surely needs the boost – and in the meantime, you’ll meet interesting new people. In fact, every time someone is better in some way than the person you’ve been chasing – better looking, funnier, smarter, more down to earth – make note of it. It’ll put things into perspective.

8. Don’t be ashamed of having loved and lost.

In some cases, it can be impossible to stop loving someone, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Loving another person is a beautiful, selfless act, even if it doesn’t result in a relationship. With time, the hurt will lessen, you will become interested in someone else, and you’ll create new love. If there’s anything the world needs more of, it’s that.

9. Keep Looking for Another Person.

It’s good option to keep looking for another person of your match. Sometimes it may take time but you don’t know when fortune takes your turn.

WHY THEY CHEAT(WOMEN)

First i want you to understand that anyone can cheat . do you know that a lady can decide to cheat on you, gentleman there even if you are in a strong relationship
and even to an extend when you are settled? Have you
ever asked yourself why and may be never got an answer
to your questions? Do you want to know the reasons so
that you can correct where necessary? Worry no more, I’ll
provide you with the answers to your problems.
1. She Has Been Promoted
Women think and like to have projects and goals. When
she reaches a milestone, say in her career, she may start
to think of another big part of her life like having a man to
match with her new status. While climbing the new levels
of success she’ll feel that goals are achievable hence be
motivated to get the rest of her life on track all in your
relationship expense.
2. She Thinks You’ve Cheated
As we all know revenge affairs are common, it deeply hurts
a woman to have doubts in a man that he has at a time
cheated at her. if the man has never confessed and
apologized, then this can affect her psychology and in
efforts to settle this down her mind she will cheat on you
as a revenge.
3. She Is Not Getting Enough
Its women nature, through oxytocin hormone that plays a
central role in her urge to bond spikes into three to five
levels higher than usual just before orgasm something
which is more intense in females than in males. If the two
of you are not having enough sex as you used to have she
might interpret this as a sign you don’t find her attractive
and that you don’t love her and hence seek some pleasure
outside the relationship to validate that she is still
sexually attractive.
4. She Is Ready To Bolt
Ooh yes… She can find ways and means to dump you by
cheating on you. Every man demands to be treated with
due respect in any relationship by their woman. If it
happens by any chance and because of the reasons well
known by the woman, she can decide to cheat causing
disrespect hence disappointing the man. Something she is
sure will cause separation hence will have wined to dump
you.
5. He’s Turning Old
A woman psychology is never in a standstill and can
trigger her to cheat on you.
It may happen she had her plans in the relationship but as
time goes by she realizes she is not getting satisfaction
something which can make her jump to another affair to
correct the feeling.
6. She Is Emotionally Starved
Lack of children in a relationship more so when the doubt
falls to a man can lead to infidelity. A man can afford to
buy his wife expensive cars and accumulate every wealth
deemed necessary but without satisfying his wife by giving
impregnating her then she will have a reason to cheat or
walk away from the relationship.
7. Women Build Strong Emotional Connections Really Fast
It’s easy for them to get close to a guy and confuses the
bond she has with her man and jump to another affair.
8. They Love a Man Who Can Give Emotional Support
Did you know that you can a woman by providing her a
shoulder to lean on? She will give her everything including
bed to sleep on if only you show some concern of help to
her.
9. They Get Confused of Their Feelings
A woman may love her man generally but her moods
swings ebb and flow like the tides of the sea. She likes
you sometimes but bitches you at other times. Once a
man settles down, the woman starts unsettling.

FIND OUT HE CANT TELL YOU ON THE GO

Today ladies I am glad I can tell you 9 solid things your man needs from you but will not open up. I know you are keeping lots of secrets
from men, and even though you think you’ve got men all
figured out, just know that your man is hiding few things
himself and no single day his tongue will slip to let them
out like;
1. Don’t Do Lots of Makeup
Men love their wives the way they woke up in the morning
without lots of makeups. It is only that he can’t say it out
but inside he burns for your change. Just do a little of it
without much exaggeration. Natural is sexier!
2. Leave the Eyebrows Alone
I’m sure we spend lots of money just to look good for our
men, how will you feel i9f all the efforts you are showing
goes unseen? I believe you will be discouraged and may be
feel that he is seeing someone else out there, that’s not
the point, you are doing a lot of it, to him you are like a
scarecrow. Plucked eyebrows aren’t pretty.
3. When the Game is on He is Reading You
When you are making love a man will be paying attention
to you if you are nice about it, bark, and they shut down.
He will never let you know how you perform but will lie if
forced to say. Put this in mind while you are there twisting
your waist or screaming out!
4. He Doesn’t Need Directions
Every man think and believes In himself that he knows
where to hit, it feels lowered to direct him on which side to
drive to and how to go about it. Let your man feel he is a
man when on bed!
5. Men Crave for Hugs and Hand Holding Too
Do you shy giving just a hug to your man just because you
are in public? Ooh no, you should know that he needs it
and also yawns to hold your hand in whatever place you
are in at any given time. Doing this doesn’t mean to them
that this will lead to sex!
6. There Is no Better Sound In the World Than You
Every upright man loves everything about his woman from
the reasoning to bed. What a woman should know is that
whenever she sings in any of the tunes or while in bed
screams when she is having orgasm she should never be
worried how her man understands this, he loves the sound!
7. You are Really Bad at Faking It
Every woman should understand that it is not a must every
time she is on bed with her man to reach orgasm; it
depends on how well you prepared each other and how
ready you are in receiving it. If it happens your man
reaches orgasm fast than you do then just take a breath,
relax help him calm down and let him know you didn’t
reach it. Don’t fake it lowers who you are on bed for him.
8. Tell Him He is Handsome
Men don’t mind being told they look good, don’t just call it
a “cute outfit” appreciate his beauty and efforts to look
good for you or else he will seek it out from another
woman who is able to see it.
9. Make Your Man Laugh or He Will Hang Around
Men don’t like gloomy women around them. Cheer up, find
new interesting stories to share with him without fear and
expressing every feeling you have for him and he will stick
by you.

WHY YOU KEEP HURTING YOUR GIRL

Based on my experience with women, and as a an adviser in relationships, i have noticed that apart from the popularly known characteristics
possessed by a woman, her fragile state is something
that most men forget. At times it is because most men
do not totally understand the depth of a woman’s
feelings thus their behavior. Below, I have listed some
of the things that whether said or done end up hurting
a woman’s feelings.

LIES
Lie to her. Lying to a woman who already knows the
truth is one thing but lying to her without her
knowledge is another. When a woman learns that you
have been lying to her in several occasions, she stops
trusting you out of the hurt you caused her.
Physical appearance critics.
Before you judge a woman by her complexion or size,
make sure you are 100% perfect. When you tell a
woman that her teeth are too spaced, she will spend
most of her time looking at herself in the mirror and
wondering how she can fix it.

Forgetting of important dates .
Set a reminder if you have to but do not forget her
birth date or your anniversary date. Those are special
memories that she expects you to have in mind for as
long as the word itself. Forgetting such important dates
only shows how little you care about your relationship.

The flirtatious man
A man who flirts with every other woman is a perfect
example of a disrespectful man. Some men have the guts
to do it right in front of their women.

The self – centered man
This is a man who thinks only of himself. He thinks the
world revolves around him and matters concerning his
partner do not matter to him. He does not care why she
was crying last night or why she is in a bad mood
because he is too focused on himself.
The abusive man
He physically or verbally abuses his partner frequently
and puts her down every time she gives her opinion on
something they are discussing about.

BUSY MAN
Most of the times he is usually busy watching soccer
with his friends or browsing the internet. He never has
time for his woman. He always has more important
things to do. No matter how busy a man is, he will
always find time to spend with his partner. Apparently,
that is how love and relationships work.

Public embarrassments
At times men overdo jokes about issues that may be
sensitive and embarrassing to women. For example
when a man publicly laughs at her open fly that was
offcourse a mistake. Embarrassing her in public
demeans a woman.
Sometimes a man may be hurting his woman’s feelings
without knowing it . Most of the times they do things
without knowing that she will be hurt. I say that if a
man does not know that he is hurting someone, he will
not change anything. Therefore, the list above should be
an aid that will help every man realize what he has
been doing wrong in his relationship and change for the
better.